Book Review: Total Forgiveness by R. T. Kendall

Dr. Kendall addresses Jesus’ challenge that we are only forgiven if we forgive others, and not if we don’t. (Matthew 6:14-15) And he does not shy away from His commands to love our enemies and pray for those who despitefully use us. (Matthew 5:44)  These commands seem impossible, but Jesus said what He meant and meant what He said. Is it possible? What of justice? What about upholding standards of right and wrong? 

The first chapter’s opening quote is from a friend’s words to the author some years ago. “R. T., you must totally forgive them. Until you totally forgive them, you will be in chains. Release them, and you will be released.” This is the fundamental premise of Jesus’ command.  We enslave ourselves to bitterness when we hold onto it. Forgiveness means they won’t get caught, nobody will ever know what they did, and they will be blessed as though they did nothing wrong. Even though Romans 12:19 (quoting Deuteronomy 32:35) says “‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay’ says the Lord”, total forgiveness means praying to the Lord that He will bless them and not judge them. 

Total forgiveness also means not telling anyone. No gossip. Not talking about it at all. Not bringing the subject up should we run into them. [There is one exception to never telling anyone, and that is in matters of law enforcement. If we are called upon to testify in a legal proceeding about personal experience of others’ illegal activities, we must testify truthfully. This is not for self-justification, or to see that others get their just desserts, but solely to protect society from continued harm. And we must tell these facts with a heart that desires the redemption and blessing of those we testify about.]

How is this possible? How can we forgive those who abused or injured us or those we love? The book offers seven steps to total forgiveness, and five stages of prayer. It boils down to the adage, “Love is a choice.” If we make a decision, and act on that decision, then our emotions are ultimately subsumed in God’s supernatural provision. This opens the door to God’s forgiveness of us (Matthew 6:14), and also releases us from the bondage of bitterness.