The Apocalyptic Unveiling of Marriage Through Scripture

 God first gave Adam and Eve to each other in Genesis 1:27-28, 2:22-24. The focus was very much on becoming one flesh and producing offspring. Although Adam and Eve were exiled from Eden, they were united in producing offspring.

 As we read of the Patriarch’s families, we do not see direct revelation of God regarding the husband-wife-concubine relationships. They had wives and concubines, and bore children. In Numbers 36:5-9, Moses dealt with a situation involving inheritance of property as it pertains to marriage. Later, Moses spoke God’s law regarding (Deuteronomy 22:13-30) legal rights for wives and women, with a focus on virginity, adultery, and rape. This provided the Israelites with a basis for dealing with situations where God’s initial paradigm for marriage is violated by human actions.

 In the Song of Songs which is Solomon’s, we read a tale of romance. A man and his fiancée entice, flirt, and ultimately consummate their marriage, with a few bumps in the road. This is a divine hint that the Hallmark Channel approach to relationship is part of the marriage process. Although the sensual aspect of of the marriage relationship is explicitly portrayed, it also shows the ups and downs due to misunderstandings, other commitments, and other people impacting their oneness. But the emphasis is on romantic games within the context of marriage.

 The first few chapters of Hosea reveal the symbolism of marriage for God’s relationship to Israel. Yahweh’s heart is broken over the unfaithfulness of His people by worship of false gods, as a husband’s grief over his wife’s adulteries (literally enacted in Hosea’s own marriage). Hosea also speaks to the enduring perseverance of the husband-wife relationship. Despite Israel’s betrayal of God, they are still married. In the last chapter, we see that despite all the pain that resulted from Israel’s unfaithfulness, He waits to bless them when they return to Him. Perseverance.

 Jesus laid down a terrifying standard of holiness for marriage. He told His listeners that whoever divorces his or her spouse forces them to commit adultery (Matthew 5:32), and whoever marries a divorced person commits adultery. (Mark 10:1-10) He effectively negated one of the aspects of Mosaic law regarding divorce. On the other hand, when confronted with a woman caught in the act of adultery, He declined to condemn her. (John 8:1-11) Grace triumphs over legalism.

 Jesus used  wedding as a symbol of the coming of His kingdom. (Matthew 22:1-14; 25:1-13) In this context, He warned His listeners to be faithful to prepare for His coming. Whether this refers to His intervention into our personal lives, or His second coming, the answer is both.

 That the relational aspect of marriage goes beyond the physical and sensual, child-bearing and rearing, and legal and moral dimensions is brought  out in 1 Corinthians 7:8-14. After Paul acknowledges the carnal dimension of marriage in the first part of the chapter, he expounds on the spiritual aspect. The husband or wife transmit holiness to their spouse and children. While there is a supernatural force (the Holy Spirit) at work, there are also the practical day-to-day words and actions of one who is committed to Christ influencing those in close contact. The practice of holiness and love are instruments of divine grace in the family.

 Paul repeated the analogy of  marriage to Christ’s relationship to the church in Ephesians 5:22-33. After quoting Genesis 2:24 (repeated by Jesus in Matthew 19:5), he uses the metaphor to give directions for the husband and wife to behave, focusing on the spiritual imperative for the quality and depth of the love the husband is to have for his wife.

 The final consummation of the church age is a wedding. (Revelation 19:7-9, 21:2, 22:17) We get a glimpse of God’s perspective of life on earth as a preparation for heaven. Our human marriages provide spectators a graphic metaphor of what Jesus and life in heaven are like. Is this primarily to encourage unbelievers to come to Christ, or to give believers a hint as to the depth and splendor of the glory to be experienced in heaven, or equal parts of both? The mystery of the consummation of that heavenly marriage is sometimes described by mystics in language we cannot relate to, but without doubt it will be glorious.

 What to us? First, that the marriage relationship goes far beyond the physical dimension, although that is the emphasis at the outset. It goes beyond the legal aspects. After the wedding comes a marriage. For it to succeed, it is first of all a covenant of shared faith. St. Paul elaborates on this in a few passages. We also see it symbolically in the trust in and obedience of both Christ and the church to the Father in heaven. Second, over the years marriage will be challenged. The determination to stick it out is the glue holding the marriage together. We make the vows ‘till death do us part’, but forty or fifty years later, was the promise kept? Finally, the day to day expression of agape in sacrificial giving is God’s character. Transmitting God’s very presence and essence through our actions. That is what it takes for marriage to meet His vision.

Jesus: Building on the Surfside Sand.

 In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus told us the importance of building our lives on a firm foundation. 

Therefore, everyone who hears these words of Mine, and acts on them, will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of Mine, and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and it fell—and its collapse was great.”(Matthew 7:24-27)

The condo collapse in Surfside, Florida on June 24, 2021 provided the vivid object lesson of consequences that Jesus prophesied about building on the sand. What can we learn from this disaster?  Some simple observations:

• Proper maintenance was postponed or neglected. Condo owners associations need to be vigilant and have periodic inspections, and respond promptly to fix problems.
• Life seemed normal. Calm continuity does not mean that there aren’t deep underlying problems, and that disaster can’t happen suddenly without warning.
• No immediate cause has been found. While a triggering event could be strong winds and floods, if a structure is fragile enough, as in this case, an insignificant event may bring total destruction. 
• Approximately 100 people were killed. It took a month of digging to recover their remains. 

Jesus was referring to building our lives on the solid foundation of His words and teachings. There are innumerable books on His teachings in the Sermon on the Mount and other passages. But here Jesus addresses the overall attitude of what is the source of precepts upon which we base everything else. Is it about me or is it about Him? 

• We need a continuing review of our life by the Holy Spirit. We need to respond when He convicts us of anything that does not line up with Jesus’ words. 
• Just because our life is calm and satisfying doesn’t mean that disaster doesn’t await us. 
• While some unexpected major event may occur to bring our whole life crashing down, if we have not built our life on Jesus and His teachings, some insignificant event could trigger destruction.
• There are innumerable aspects of our life that Jesus’ words address (basically all facets of life). It takes a lifetime of Holy Spirit training to conform this multitude of life-traits to Jesus’ words.

In the earlier teachings, Jesus addressed pride, judgmentalism, greed, anger, lust, envy, stinginess, et.al. Whether destruction resulting from these sins comes through the natural working of cause and effect in this world, or through the spiritual judgment in the kingdom to come, judgment is inescapable. In a sense, those whose sins ruin their earthly lives come out better, because they have an opportunity to repent before they face the judgment of Christ, rather than facing Him unrepentant and beyond all possibility of redemption. (1 Corinthians 3:11-15, Matthew 25:41-46) Far better to build our life on His words now, heeding and doing the beatitudes, and His other teachings, even though they are impossible for us to keep. A life built on His commands is on solid ground and will not be destroyed like the Champlain Towers South in Surfside, Florida.

Book Review: Total Forgiveness by R. T. Kendall

Dr. Kendall addresses Jesus’ challenge that we are only forgiven if we forgive others, and not if we don’t. (Matthew 6:14-15) And he does not shy away from His commands to love our enemies and pray for those who despitefully use us. (Matthew 5:44)  These commands seem impossible, but Jesus said what He meant and meant what He said. Is it possible? What of justice? What about upholding standards of right and wrong? 

The first chapter’s opening quote is from a friend’s words to the author some years ago. “R. T., you must totally forgive them. Until you totally forgive them, you will be in chains. Release them, and you will be released.” This is the fundamental premise of Jesus’ command.  We enslave ourselves to bitterness when we hold onto it. Forgiveness means they won’t get caught, nobody will ever know what they did, and they will be blessed as though they did nothing wrong. Even though Romans 12:19 (quoting Deuteronomy 32:35) says “‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay’ says the Lord”, total forgiveness means praying to the Lord that He will bless them and not judge them. 

Total forgiveness also means not telling anyone. No gossip. Not talking about it at all. Not bringing the subject up should we run into them. [There is one exception to never telling anyone, and that is in matters of law enforcement. If we are called upon to testify in a legal proceeding about personal experience of others’ illegal activities, we must testify truthfully. This is not for self-justification, or to see that others get their just desserts, but solely to protect society from continued harm. And we must tell these facts with a heart that desires the redemption and blessing of those we testify about.]

How is this possible? How can we forgive those who abused or injured us or those we love? The book offers seven steps to total forgiveness, and five stages of prayer. It boils down to the adage, “Love is a choice.” If we make a decision, and act on that decision, then our emotions are ultimately subsumed in God’s supernatural provision. This opens the door to God’s forgiveness of us (Matthew 6:14), and also releases us from the bondage of bitterness. 

 

Book Review: I Heard God Laugh, by Matthew Kelly

Subtitle: A practical guide to life’s essential daily habit

With so many books on prayer out there, I was very pleasantly surprised to find real spiritual depth connected with practical suggestions for connecting with God. In rebuttal to the common joke about God’s response to our plans, he points out that a good father would never laugh at His children’s aspirations and ideas for achieving them. Kelly starts with the story of his own  unexpected introduction to real prayer, followed by his spiritual journey and significant lessons along the way. Without telling the reader that their prayer life is weak and shallow, he offers thoughts on going deeper. 

As some example suggestions (not the complete course) he suggests:

• Ask God what He wants
• Give yourself to prayer - pray with carefree timelessness
• Just keep showing up - regardless of how you feel

As one who has in the past spent hours daily in prayer, he acknowledges that is not the case now (as of when he wrote the book) because he is at a different stage of life. He does not offer suggestions on how to strike the right work/life balance, but it is clear that most of us spend far too much time busy on worldly activities and commitments, and miss the delight of being in God’s presence. And miss the opportunity to prioritize our to-do lists with His perspective and anointing. And ultimately to receive His peace.

There are many possible paradigms for prayer:

• A list of needs and issues
• The events of the past day or coming day in our own life
• Scripture passages
• People

In any of these structures, the important thing in prayer is to ask God what He wants  and to wait on Him, to hear from Him.   He already knows about all of them, and while He delights to hear our voice, He knows the best path forward, has a divine perspective, and will share it with us if we can but take time to listen to Him. 

In conclusion, God’s laughter reflects the joy He has in the best parts of His creation. Hearing it brings clarity to us about what matters: loving God more than anything on earth, and loving people more that they love themselves. Spending enough time with Him to receive His perspective.

Real Wealth: Camelot and Jesus

 Cameron Hilditch uses a passage from  Charles Williams’ Taliessin Through Logres (first published in 1938) to illuminate his excellent article  Money and Markets in Camelot  linking morality and economics. His key point, that a medium of exchange can become an object of obsession and destroy personal interactions, is akin to the Bible’s warnings regarding wealth. Jesus never said money is the root of all evil, but He indicated that love of it will destroy a person’s soul (Matthew 19:16-24, Luke 18:18-26), as Paul explicitly warned his readers. (1 Timothy 3:3, 6:10; 2 Timothy 3:2) 

Hilditch uses the fictitious discussion in Camelot about whether money is a good thing (freeing people to make choices) or a bad thing (becoming an object of devotion) to point out a fact seldom mentioned in traditional liberal vs. conservative debates about government policy. Money depersonalizes human interactions, and hence opens the door to moral wrongs committed anonymously. The flip side of freedom to choose is lack of personal connection between parties. Just pay your money and get the product. If you cheat someone, anonymity is hard to penetrate (dispute resolution, or worse lawyers and courts). If the poor are oppressed, let the government take care of them. The archbishop then quotes Luke 16:9 to put this in perspective: individuals still make moral choices in how they deal with others, whether in barter or a monetized market.

As one example of impersonal vs. personal interactions, consider care of the elderly. In olden times, the elderly lived with their children when they were unable to live in their own household. In our day many live in assisted living facilities with professional care-givers. The cost is higher but the quality of care is better from the perspective of professional qualifications. Money as a medium of exchange enables trained persons to meet the medical and physical needs of people they are unrelated to. But what about interpersonal dynamics? Filial love is absent; interactions of trained professionals with their patients are, well, professional. There is a tension in this trade off. 

Another example. A mother makes a meal for her children, or the children go to a cafeteria to purchase a meal. A trade off between efficiency and personal care. But do we assess options solely on the dollar value of a person’s time? Wouldn’t that depend on whether a family is struggling financially and must make every decision based on that, or if they are struggling relationally and that drives their decisions? Do children miss the opportunity to tangibly savor their mother’s love? Does every family use criteria appropriate to their situation?

Hilditch identifies tension between two paradigms for economic activity:

• “A moral marketplace … emphasizing cooperation, exchange, and a grateful and acknowledged dependence of ourselves on our neighbors and of our neighbors on ourselves.”
• “A model emphasizing competition, self-reliance, and pulling oneself up by one’s own bootstraps.”

This contrast omits one of the key consequences of having money as a medium of exchange. The entity that controls the money wields the power to make or destroy. How much of a role did hyperinflation in the Weimar Republic play in the rise of the Third Reich? What impact does printing money, excuse me, quantitative easing, have on the current apparent economic recovery? Printing money to provide enhanced unemployment benefits helps those in need, but has many other ancillary impacts. It is completely rational to not work if you can collect a better income, but what are the moral implications of financially incentivizing people to not work? (c.f. 2 Thessalonians 3:10)

Hilditch did not intend to address Jesus’ overall perspective:

• He overturned tables of money changers in the Temple, calling them a den of thieves. (John 2:15; Matthew 21:12; Mark 11:15)
• He told Pharisees & Herodians to render unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s (Matthew 22:17-21; Mark 12:13-17;  Luke 20:21-25)
• He commended the poor woman who put a mite, all she had to live on, in the offering box. (Mark 12:41-44)
• He had one of His disciples get a stater out of a fish’s mouth to pay taxes. (Matthew 17:24-27)
• He told a rich young man to give his wealth away to follow him. (Luke 18:18-25)
• He told the parable of the rich man who was going to build bigger barns to store his wealth and then kick back, and then died suddenly. (Luke 12:15-21)
• He fed five thousand people with two loaves and five fish (Matthew 14, Mark 6, Luke 9, John 6), and later fed four thousand people with seven loaves and a few fish (Matthew 15)

From Jesus’ teachings, what is most important? Relationship; relationship with God. Who really believes that? Although God promises blessings to those who tithe faithfully and give generously,  we can’t buy God’s approval with donations. He can and does provide material needs and He isn’t worried about it. It is clear from Jesus’ life that what matters most is time spent with Him, as that is how we build a relationship with Him.

Bottom line. God put us in the world, so we have to use its mechanisms to function, but we should never mistake them for spiritual reality. Jesus brushed off the need for money, the provision of money when the world demanded it, and the things money could accomplish, because from God’s perspective they are trivial. The spiritual reality that transcends this world is often hard to recognize, but God challenges us to.

Driving through this Earthly Life

Rules of safe driving can set an example for how we should live.  Driving is much more intense than walking, both in the attention it requires  and the potential power wielded by the driver. So we have very strict rules for driving, both in law and in the “rules of the road”. Hence, it provides an amplified object lesson for life as it will be amplified in the hereafter.

The most important element of driving is to arrive at your destination safely.	Your number one priority in life must be to finish the race with faith in Christ. It is not to be rich, famous, or popular. When you reach the end of your life those things won’t matter. It can be tempting to put a spiritual disguise on success - to glorify God by ... but be very careful that He has called you to it. The temptations that go with success (mostly pride)  are a rocky sea coast on which the faith of many has shipwrecked.
Pay attention, don’t get distracted.	In your travel with Christ, don’t let worldly things, however exciting or attractive, distract you from paying attention to what He is saying and doing in your life. Even good things can be a distraction. When He blesses you with a gorgeous sunrise or scenic vista, accept it gratefully, but keep your eyes on the prize.
Never tailgate.	Don’t follow any individual human too closely.  Wise people can impart much wisdom, but ultimately all are human and may stumble. Maintain enough independence and distance so that God has space to warn you if someone wise is going astray.
Flow with traffic unless it’s unsafe.	Choose your friends and associates wisely. You can’t be a lone wolf. Be wary of those with worldly or self-centered agendas. It is often hard to discern wolves in sheep’s clothing. Pray for for enough discernment to recognize them.
Always use your turn signal for a few seconds before you turn or change lanes.	Don’t make your faith a complete secret from those around you. You don’t have to preach at them, just let them know when the Lord leads you to make a change. There is a fine line between a testimony and a self-centered, self-righteous declaration of what God is doing in your life.
Never react to a challenge from another driver.	When someone challenges your faith, be wary of engaging them. The devil has many evangelists. Shun them.
When you change lanes, line up with a gap in the target lane, match speeds, signal for a few seconds, then change lanes.	When you have found the people you think you can trust as fellow-travelers, cautiously try to engage. Choose wisely. Let the Holy Spirit guide you to a church and fellow believers that you will journey through life with.
As an obvious corollary, for everyone’s safety, when someone wants to merge in front of you, let them.	Make space in your group for others to join. There are many guidelines in the New Testament about fellowship, but welcome those who want to join you.

The bottom line on both driving and life should be obvious. Exhibit God’s character in every thought, word, and deed. Be Christ to those you encounter on the road of life.

Book Review: How the West Really Lost God by Mary Eberstadt

 

Book Review: How the West Really Lost God A New Theory of Secularization, by Mary Eberstadt (2013)

 The thesis is straightforward. Family is the bedrock of society, and it is inextricably intertwined with faith, and the institutions of faith. Faith and family rise and fall together, as cam be demonstrated statistically without reference to causal mechanisms. The impact to society can be seen in multiple dimensions. Children raised in broken families (divorced parents, unwed mothers) have much higher rates of lifelong problems and lower church attendance (using church attendance as an external measurable indicator of faith), that correlates with other dysfunctional behaviors. Of course, babies that are aborted never get to church.

The author points out a surprising (to me), but obvious in retrospect, trend. As churches relaxed doctrine regarding Christian behavior with respect to sex and marriage, they simultaneously began to decline in attendance. No super spiritual cause and effect here - fewer families staying together, getting married to have children, and so on, means fewer children raised in church. On the other hand, parents who stay together, work through difficulties, persevere because they are following the teachings of faith, see the need to take their children to church to instill in them similar values, and find friends who will be good influences.

 That the worldly behaviors of Christians are beneficial for society as a whole is obvious to all. Unbelievers, of course, believe that moral actions result from people being good and doing what is right without reference to God. The problem is, that doesn’t seem to be working. Raising children in healthy home environments, donating to charity, living healthy lifestyles, obeying the law — are these behaviors that result from church attendance and faith in God or from growing up in healthy homes? The author’s point is that it is not possible to separate these as causes.

 And yet - this was not the author’s intention - I have to wonder if the spiritual dimension of obedience to the Faith has power that we cannot see. That understanding love not to be Eros but agape carries the supernatural empowerment to be able to love in a way that seeks the best, the highest, the most God-like outcome for the beloved. For surely this is what Ephesians 5:25 both commands and implicitly enables. The world cannot accept this.

 Is there hope for Western society and civilization? The author offers arguments for and against. But in the end, speculating about the future of the effects of removing God are less important than whether we can learn from its roots and change the course of the future. From my perspective, God could act in His sovereignty (and He will), but before that final unveiling (apocalypse), he has given us the responsibility to learn from His word. The kings of Judah the from Solomon to Zedekiah demonstrated the outcomes of obedience or rebellion. Jehoshaphat, Uzziah, Hezekiah, Josiah all prospered because they did what was right in the Lord’s eyes. Twelve kings did what was evil in the Lord’s eyes, ultimately ending in the Babylonian captivity. Jehoiakim, Jehoiachin, and Zedekiah were all taken to Babylon as prisoners. Jeremiah pronounced a curse on future generations:

 Jeremiah 22:28 Is this man Jehoiachin a despised, broken pot, an object no one wants? Why will he and his children be hurled out, cast into a land they do not know?

29 O land, land, land, hear the word of the Lord!

30 This is what the Lord says: “Record this man as if childless, a man who will not prosper in his lifetime, for none of his offspring will prosper, none will sit on the throne of David or rule anymore in Judah.”

 Will we learn from history, or repeat it?